Vital Wedding Tips
You better put a ring on it
As the old-wives’ tale says a man should spend about 3-months’ salary on the ring. However, those were the days when women were primarily housewives and men had to guess what their future brides would like. Now, our independent thriving women are a lot more involved in both paying for the ring and picking it out; be it subtle hints via Pinterest or not so subtle texts of rings they prefer. With everything considered, the wedding ring is one of the most important purchases a couple can make in their life, so it is best that the couple choose one that represents their style without breaking the bank. Also something to consider is that if you have a humble budget (because of astronomical student loans or new house payments) it is always a good idea to purchase something that you can build on later like a simple platinum or pavé band that offers room to grow. Whatever you choose to purchase be sure to do extensive research before you purchase (depending on style, your budget can be very large or cost-effective).
Why Wedding Planners are so important
Your wedding is one of the most important days in your life and for many, you only get married once. So hiring a professional whose sole job is to advocate for your dream wedding is essential to the entire process. Weddings are always beautiful and it takes a lot to put this day together, so when picking the right person and their team to help you in this venture its best to know some things before you pick the right one:
1. Planners help you stay on budget and deal with can help with the legal contracts.
Planners know what is important to you. They have planned quite a few weddings and know whether things like having one bagpiper is just effective as having seven.
2. Planners are huge advocates for making sure your day is perfect and keep things on track.
The road to your wedding day is long and very stressful, so hiring someone that makes sure you stay on budget, with your vision in mind, will help make sure everything is streamlined and on time.
3. Planners can help get discounts from vendors
Wedding planners work with vendors all the time so they know how to best deal with them and get the best discount.
4. Planners help coordinate the entire day from start to finish
Some weddings require multiple locations. With hiring a Wedding Planner, they are able to flip the locations and set up while you and your guest enjoy the festivities
Bring Your Girl Gang!
Don’t go dress shopping on your own—all the gowns will start to look the same after a while and it will be harder to recall which style you really loved. But be careful about who you do bring. If your mom or sibling can’t make the trip, ask a friend who is truly honest. This is the time when you really need to know which dress looks best. And if you really want to let it all sink in, take photos! You can print them and swap them out of your vision board until you see yourself in that one perfect dress! Recent trends have even seen some brides hiring a professional stylist for the day. It is what they do… and to have a professional eye will only help those oh-so amazing wedding photos that every bride dreams’ of. Imagine being professionally styled for your wedding day… let it simmer and think, is it worth the cost? If so, include it in your budget and go from there. You can always make sure you have a cancellation policy in order just in case it becomes a cost to be cut.
The Perks of a Faux Wedding Cake
Jordan Payne Events has noticed a trend coming to light… using a display cake for the big day. Payne suggests, “You can design any cake you want and do not have to worry with guests having any issues with it when eating it (for example fondant). Many guests do not like the thickness of fondant and they tend to peel it off. Well, when they peel it off, guess what, there goes the buttercream icing with it… which is the best part of the cake! Each guest gets a perfectly, pretty cut slice of cake! How many times have you seen a cut wedding cake and then pieces are a hot mess in some cases. When the catering team has a sheet cake in the back, they are able to cut is beautifully. Timing! The magic of wedding cake being served to guests in ample time is wonderful! The bride and groom cut the cake and wrap up any last formalities and bam, the wedding cake comes right out! No waiting! I also love when the cake is on display for the entire evening and the room is not left with a care table OR an empty space. It is beautifully displayed for the entire evening. Let’s be honest, couples spend big bucks on their wedding cakes and why not show it off as long as possible.”
Choosing a Wedding Makeup Artist
On such a special day most brides want a totally different makeup scheme to their usual look, but many are worried about getting it wrong and ending up looking garish or overdone. Choosing the right makeup artist is essential! You should be looking to choose your wedding makeup artist around four to five months before the big event, and you should book both for the wedding day itself and for a trial run two to three months beforehand. If you can arrange to have your hair and makeup trials on the same day, it’s a great excuse for a girl’s night out! When you are talking to makeup artists and deciding which one to use, the questions they ask you are significantly more important than their responses to your questions. They should be asking you about the lighting at the ceremony and reception, the type of venue you have chosen, the color of your wedding dress, and the wedding’s overall theme. Your makeup artist should have a wide range of styles in their repertoire and they should be prepared to listen to what you want. At the end of the day, a bride ought to look herself, yet feel contented and beautiful with the wedding makeup she is wearing.
photo courtesy @EmilyWestonMakeup
Saving on the Big Day
If you are not hiring a wedding planner, keep an emergency contact sheet or phone with your vendor contacts on you on your wedding day. It may come in handy in case your limo driver gets lost or you decide you’d like your photographer to take some behind-the-scenes shots. Depending on budget, there are many items you can handle as a couple, then bring in a contact person, or planner for the day of. You can easily update them with your vendors, plans the day of and special cues for all of those one-time moments. Another unforeseen expense? Feeding your wedding day crew. Before you sign the contracts, make sure you’re not required to serve the same meal to your vendors that guests will receive. Otherwise, you could be paying for 20 additional lobster tails. Choose a less expensive (but equally hearty) meal for them instead. You will have to let your wedding caterer know a couple of days before the wedding exactly how many vendors you need to feed (don’t forget photography assistants and band roadies) and what you want them to serve.
The best way to invite people to your big day!
Know your style. The style of your wedding should be represented on the invitation it will give your guest a incite on what kind of wedding they are going to: classic Hollywood, casual beach front, or rustic elegance.
Define the shape, size and colors
Incorporating the shades along with size and shapes will make the perfect wedding addition to not only the invitations but placement cards, thank you cards, menus, and ceremony programs.
Some fonts and colors just do not fit together and make the whole invitation illegible (For instance dark writing on dark backgrounds or light writing on a light background). Another issue couples encounter is overcrowding the invitation. If this does happen you can always put the meal options and R.S.V.P on a second card. It is always best to start early and to print at least a few first before sending them out. Sending them out!
It is a hassle to get all the invitations sent out. So to make sure things run smoothly ask the stationer if you can take the envelopes home so you can get a head start on preparing the addresses, if need be hire a professional.
The Venue—What costs are included?
When choosing a venue or location, look into both hidden costs and hidden savings. For example, does your venue have an exclusive caterer or bar service that they will require you to use, or another exclusive vendor list? This can result in higher rates because they need to pay the venue a commission. Alternatively, venues can offer hidden savings by including things like table and chair rentals, in-house sound and lighting, and other benefits that you would otherwise have to purchase! Know ahead of time if your wedding date falls on the same day as a trade conference, charity walk or other local event that could affect traffic and hotel room availability. Heed the weather and other potential annoyances. Guests have been known to skip out early from hotter-than-hot summer tent weddings and improperly heated winter loft receptions. Request an extra hour for cocktails or for your band to throw in that Frank Sinatra sound-alike before you sign on the dotted line. Most vendors would rather secure the reservation than nickel-and-dime you early on and it will let your guests know that you want them to enjoy your special day just as much as you plan to.
Ride in Style
Does your wedding call for a horse-drawn carriage or white stretch limo? A Bentley or classic Cadillac? When there are about four months to go, it’s time to think about your transportation, when you’ve long settled on your date, ceremony and reception sites and wedding party size. If you’re marrying in April, May, or June—prom and graduation season—high-class vehicles will be in high demand, so you’ll need to book your transportation even earlier. Your first step is to take a head count for immediate family and VIPs. For many weddings, that means the bride and groom, their wedding party, both sets of parents, siblings not in the wedding party and grandparents. Know that you’re not required to provide transportation for the entire wedding party for the entire night—you just need to arrange something so no VIP gets stranded. If you’re nervous about guests getting lost (or enjoying themselves too much to drive home safely), a party bus can be a fun and practical option. It doesn’t hurt to get estimates, then review them later during budgeting.
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